Speaking as a psychotherapist, the speaker shares that clients often make the mistake of telling him they “realize” something. He then inflicts this mini-lecture on them. Pointing to an imaginary table, he develops the analogy of what would happen if he did not realize it was there. For instance, he would trip over it when he got up to answer the phone. Then he spells out the difference when he does finally realize it is there. Reality does not necessarily change, but we do. And when we live in a reality that is new to us, we have new choices, choices that were not possible beforehand.